So, I'd mentioned earlier how much I was enjoying a book called Naughty Paris: A Lady’s Guide to the Sexy City, and I've been meaning to share a few tidbits from its many titillating sidebars and insider tips. Actually this would be a good reference if you're wanting to put a French lover in a story! Did you know that for French men, sex ala derriere is considered part of the usual offering, no negotiation or discussion necessary? I'd heard this from (shocked) friends the summer I spent in Avignon, but since it's in an actual book, I guess it must be true. (I never got that far, but did have one interesting cultural adventure in a car with a French fireman I keep meaning to write up--provided there's interest, of course).
Anyway, here's an interesting statistic from the book: "According to the Kinsey Institute of Indiana University, 5-10% of Americans engage in light SM on at least an occasional basis. And if you've ever been blindfolded, tied up, or spanked by your lover during sex (Donna's note: no fair if said lover does this when s/he's not having sex with you), you can count yourself among them." Ha, and I thought I was irredeemably vanilla! Who knew?
How about these words of wisdom from Catherine Deneuve: "Sex is a big question mark. It is something people will talk about forever." C'est vrai, n'est-ce pas?
And the ever-quotable Mae West: "When choosing between two evils, I always pick the one I haven't tried before." Words to live by indeed.
One of my favorite quotes in the book is by writer Jules Renard: "Don't tell a woman she's pretty; tell her there's no other woman like her, and all roads will open to you."
Presumably even the "back" road, Monsieur?
But seriously, gentleman, I will confirm, if you want to seduce a lady, do not go on and on about how you love women, fat, thin, busty, flat, smart, bubbly--gawd, you just think they're all enchanting. Hold her gaze and tell her she's special. Even if it's not true. And roads will open ;-).